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JuJu, I don't even know what to say. I have been in extremely similar situations, and I know how it just hurts, and sometimes all you can do is cry. I am praying for you and your family, asking for the strength to get through this and then some. But, there is also a time for business too, even if you don't want to deal with any of it, you need to, it is important. You said that your husband got let-go for not meeting quota, well, where is that in the employee contract, and do they have to give any notice? A lot of places just can't up and fire you without oral and written notice to shape up or get shipped out. And yes, it is weird that they would let your husband go when they found out what your biopsy was for (luckily my husband is a cop, and his brothers in blue gave him all sorts of sick time for his surgery and helped us a lot, his co-workers and boss were all there for us, not against us, and I am sorry that your husbands work wasn't the same), this needs to be looked into. But for now, your husband has been fired, and he needs to go apply for state unemployment, chances are, he will get it. Then, when he does apply, he needs to go to the job and family services, and apply for the medical card and food stamps to get you through this. IF you find out that he was illegally let go, and that the company didn't follow policy when letting him go, attorney up girl, it is time to rock their world and get your retirement. This is no joke either, gotta get mean even if we don't feel like it sometimes. If they broke policy with him, they have opened themselves up for a huge lawsuit, and don't talk to them about it, seek legal council right away. (Sometimes if it is a black and white case, an ambulance chaser will take the case, so it won't be any out of pocket for you, and besides, if you do sue, it won't see the inside of a courtroom anyhow.) When it comes to your health care and medicines, states do have assistance programs for bills and treatment plans as well. I know that my husband takes methotrexate (a cancer drug for his sarcoid) and it costs a lot, along with the handful of other pills that he takes each day. So, what I am saying I guess is, be strong right now, and be brave. Take care of yourself, but don't feel hopeless, even though that seems near impossible.

If you want, feel free to email me at mindyedmiston@yahoo.com anytime, or you can call if you just want someone to listen to you,

Mindy

ps- just out of curiosity, what state are you in if you don't mind me asking? I can do a little digging with my spare time and see what help is out there for you....... And, when you family needs help, say so. I will be more than happy to send what money I can to help you in your time (I am sure others feel the same way) of need, I hope that others would do that for me too.

Do well in your surgery tomorrow, and be strong.

 May God and His angels be with you and your doctors and nurses today.  Sue

Prayers for you and your family as you rest and recover. 

Biopsy and husband's job loss are being counter-balanced by your win.

Check your husband's insurance policy: usually health insurance coverage is good thru end of month following termination.  If so, that timeframe might cover some of your medical costs post operation.  Good luck! 

 Sweetjuju Do you live in statew where you can be terminated without cause?

I'd contact alawyer who specializes in labor laws in your state

Jake  

My prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Thanks to all for good wishes. I now have diagnosis of *** cancer and will have another lumpectomy on Monday Aug 25.  After a month I  will undergo 6 weeks of radiation, 5days  a week.  Supposedly will be free of cancer after that but there may be yet another operation so says the surgeon.. I decided to have the surgery the day before school starts so I could recuperate during the school day.  Husband is still looking for another job so we'l have to pay out for the COBRA.  I told the folks in marketing I could not accept the car until November as I will be too busy to take care of getting insurance, whatever. I sure hope husband finds a new job soon.  I really hope I can keep the car but if not, c'est la vie.  I just wish it was next week already and I was resting w/the aid of some strong painkiller.  I appreciate all the suggestions.  I have too much to do to get affairs in order before surgery and the start of school to initiate legal action and husband is not too optimistic about a legal outcome. Anyway I honestly am grateful to the Mr. Sweepy community and I wish you all very big wins. If I knew how to type an emoticon it would be sadface.  

Wow, I am so deeply sorry to hear that you are going to have to battle cancer, but I am glad that they can get rid of it, that is wonderful. You said that you are having an operation done before school starts, and that makes me wonder if you have children? Most states offer free health care to families without insurance if there are children in the home, and it is family insurance that is often times given. There are a lot of benefits out there for people to obtain through their state, and they are there for a reason and a purpose. It sounds like your family is full of good, hard working, tax paying people, and you guys have every right to these benefits as do the rest of us. (o: I would love to help you and find out info for you, if you want to let me know what state you live in I could do some digging. Could save a lot of money in the end, know what I mean? In any case, I hope that you are feeling better now, and getting a chance to rest up before your next surgery and treatment (make sure you have been given all of your options for treatment), and that you are enjoying the end of these summer days. (o:

Take it easy,
Mindy
mindyedmiston@yahoo.com

ps- have you told the sweeps admin what a pickle you are in right now? They might be able to assist you with the car, or maybe even sub it for you. Just and idea though. And one more thing, c'est la vie is one of my favorite sayings, I have that tattooed in a beautiful type with an outline of a dove on my shoulder blade. My simple reminder that such is life, whether it's good or bad, be glad to have it. Know what I mean?

Sweetjuju1, when my husband was 33 years old he was diagnosed with cancerous polyps, they removed 4 of them during a colonoscopy.  The doctor said that the polyps were very large and he would need a colon resection immediately, because they cannot determine if the cancer had spread without the resection.  He had 12 inches of his colon removed in May of 2000.  Thankfully the cancer had not yet spread.  He did have some complications from the surgery and it was a long recovery for him and he was not able to go back to work and resume a normal life for about four months. Now his is fine, but the first five years he had have to yearly colonoscopies and now it is every three years.  I'm am so thankful that they found his cancer early, even with the complications, or he would be gone by now.  So I guess what I'm trying to say is it sounds like you found the cancer early so stay strong and keep positive and pray.  Good luck and God Bless. - Annmarie

Sweetjuju, thank you for updating us on your condition.  We've all obviously been thinking about you.  I'm relieved to hear your cancer was caught early and manageable with lumpectomy and radiation.  That's a blessing in itself.  Try to enjoy the rest of the summer with the kids.  I don't know how much they know, but as hard as it is they need to see you upbeat.  You have so much stress right now.  

COBRA is a financial killer. I have to take an early retirement the end of Oct. due to medical reasons, and the cost per year for me is going to be $12,000.  How can anyone afford to pay that kind of money?!  This country really does need some kind of universal health plan.   I personally would make a phone call and find out what the state can do for you now that your husband is unemployed.  For heaven's sakes don't feel like it's demeaning.  It was set up for situations like yours, just has been taken advantage by so many.  You deserve to have some peace of mind.

Love and prayers, Sue    

So I figured that you might not want to share a whole lot of personal information online, so I went and dug up a few pages that you might want to check out if you have the time. Hope you are well,
Mindy

http://www.insurekidsnow.gov/states.asp

http://www.statehealthfacts.org/

 I'm sure you aren't reading sweeps today, but just wanted you to know my prayers were with you in surgery.  Sue

Thanks to all for info and good wishes.  Unbelievably, I have yet one more surgery scheduled for Mon Sept 8th , not all the cancer was removed last time which will make a grand total of three operations in 6weeks. You have no idea how much your posts mean to me.  I would have replied sooner but am totally physically and emotionmally exhausted.  See, I can't even spell anymore.  Husband is still looking for a new job as right now I can't work for obvious reasons.  I sure hope when this election is over with that someone really does something about health insurance.  It's horrible to be getting calls about the insurance coverage and who's gonna pay or you don't get your surgery. Iam hoping to enter more sweeps during the downtime between surgery and the beginning of radiation therapy.  I actually find entering sweeps and visualizing winning prizes to be comforting.  I'm sure you all know what I mean.

Here's hoping more and more of you become 10K club members. Please any and all prayers will be appreciated. Thank you all.

Keeping you in my prayers.